When an ex shouts at you and tells lies about you, you feel that they are distorting reality; there is a natural tendency to want to defend yourself. DON'T DO IT!
By doing so you risk your ex having other opportunities to continue to bad mouth you, as by you responding they have won in a sense,
as they have had a reaction. Clearly any bad or untruthful thing that is said about you is hurtful but you need to be realistic, and calm, unlike your ex who will continue to distort the truth.
The next time you’re tempted to defend yourself, repeat this: “What my ex thinks about me is none of my business.”
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